Writing a wedding toast can be a difficult and nerve-wracking task. You want to be funny, warm and endearing. It can be a big ask.
Every couple hopes the speeches at their reception will be memorable for all the right reasons.
Let’s get into it and figure out how to write a wedding toast that will make everyone laugh and cry.
Wedding Toast Format
The wedding toasts should be sincere, not too long and not too short. Always make sure to have a beginning, middle and end.
Every speech should be unique and catered to the relationship with the couple. However, here is a general template to help you get started.
1 – Praise & Congratulate
Express to the couple how proud and happy you are for them. Mention what it means to you to witness them getting married.
2 – Introduce Yourself
Not everyone will know who you are, especially if it is a large wedding. Let everyone know who you are and how you met the bride or groom. Be sure to do this before you get into the rest of the speech.
3 – Tell a Story
Choose some funny memories that fit a theme. The theme of your speech will help it all tie together, making your toast more meaningful.
4 – Talk To Both Partners
Even if you don’t know them both super well, ensure that you are addressing both of them. Your focus shouldn’t solely be on your friend and ignore their new partner.
Tell the story of their engagement or a memory you have of them both. Even share something your friend told you that provers the pair is meant to be together.
5 – Crowd-Pleasers, No Inside Jokes
If it’s only funny to a few of you, leave it out of the toast. Make sure everyone understands what you’re talking about. Remember to use jokes that will be funny to everyone and avoid anything inappropraite.
6 – Raise Your Glass
To end your speech, invite everyone to raise their glass to toast the newly weds. Then cheers and take a sip.
Tips For a Perfect Wedding Toast
Here are some tips to ensure your wedding toast is one to remember.
Just Go For It
Figuring out where to start is the hardest part. However, just get writing. Begin by telling stories. You may find a real gem that will make everyone laugh.
The easiest way to write a speech is to write as much as you can. Don’t worry about editing when you’re writing. Go back and choose the details when you’re done. This will help you find a theme, which is important for making the toast memorable.
If you say that the bride/groom is trustworthy, give an example that proves it. Having proof and examples will ensure that your listenings eat up everything you’re saying.
Not Too Short, Not Too Long
The ideal toast is about 3 minutes long. It is enough time to get your point accross but short enough that you’ll maintain everyones attention.
Practice Makes Perfect
Practice your toast as much as you can. Practice for friends and family as well. 3 minutes may not seem like a long time. However, when you’re nervous or illprepared, it’s an eternity.
Keep It Clean
This goes without saying but, it is important – avoid curse words, stories about exes and sex.
Don’t Embarrass The Couple
Remember to ask yourself how each story will make the couple feel.
Is there any negativity? – Don’t use it. Be sure to think if this will make any of the guests uncomfortable.
How To Get Begin
Now that you have a template to follow and some writing tips, let’s brainstorm!
An easy way to find material is to ask yourself questions.
- What are your first memories of the newly weds?
- What is your favorite memory of the bride/groom?
- What was the first they they told you about their partner?
- What has their relationship taught you?
- What qualities do you most admire about them?
- When have they displayed these qualities?
- How did you know they are meant to be?